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Swinging Destinations: What You Need to Know and How to Plan Your Getaway

Updated: Sep 19, 2023

The swinging lifestyle doesn't have to be confined to your living room, your local club, or an evening at a hotel in the city. Those are all great, but imagine jetting off to a sun-soaked paradise or hotel in a distant city where like-minded couples and singles congregate for a week or weekend of uninhibited fun. Swinging getaways can elevate your experience from fantastic to downright unforgettable.

The Allure of Adults-Only Swinging Destinations

Visiting an adults-only swinging destination offers a multi-layered experience that caters to more than just your need for a vacation. Imagine stepping into a tailored environment designed specifically for open-minded adults, where every aspect—from the events to the atmosphere—is thoughtfully constructed to encourage the exploration of your deepest desires. Whether you find yourself at a secluded resort or aboard a swinging cruise, the options for enjoyment extend far beyond traditional tourist activities. These include:

  • Poolside Play: The daytime offers sensual, adults-only games by the pool, allowing you to engage with others while basking in the sun.

  • Theme Nights: The evenings are just as enticing, featuring theme nights that invite you to dress up and play out your fantasies.

  • Nightclubs: And when the sun sets, the adult-focused nightclubs open their doors for you to dance, mingle, and maybe even discover something—or someone—new.

  • All in all, these destinations offer limitless possibilities, bounded only by the scope of your own imagination and comfort levels.

Choosing the Ideal Destination

When it comes to selecting the perfect adults-only, swinging destination, the landscape is diverse, offering a range of experiences to suit various preferences and comfort levels. First off, it’s important to consider what you and your partner are looking for. This choice is more than just about the place; it sets the tone and atmosphere for the kinds of interactions and experiences you'll have. Here are some factors and destination types to consider:

  • All Inclusive Destination Resorts: This is what most people think of when they think of a couples-only sex resort. Some all-inclusive adults-only resorts offer a general experience that caters to a wide demographic, while others tend to attract certain age groups—say, those who are younger or older—to create a more focused atmosphere. The two most popular are Desire Rivera Maya Resort and Hedonism in Negril, Jamaica.

  • Swinging Cruises: These are not your regular cruises. Swinging cruises offer a mix of relaxation and adventure but with an added layer of adult-themed events and activities, offering an entire ship full of like-minded individuals.

  • Resorts in the US: For those with less time or who want a getaway without leaving the country, there are a few couples-only swinger resorts to consider. Only want to go for a long weekend, these places are great in that they have all the features of say a Caribbean destination, right here in the USA, so they’re great for a couple who’s interested in seeing what an adult resort is like, without having to go for a whole week and fly somewhere. Check out Caliente Club & Resorts in Land O' Lakes, Florida

  • Special Events: Events like "Naughty in N'awlins" in New Orleans provided an annual gathering point for the swinging community, mixing the local culture with adult-themed festivities.

  • Hotel Takeovers: These are typically hosted by popular podcasters and influencers and often feature curated experiences, guest speakers, and activities that you won't find in a standard resort. And because it’s a “takeover” you know everyone is there for the same reason. Keep an eye out for special events hosted by popular swinging or lifestyle podcasters.

  • Adventure Options: For those looking for a twist on the traditional swinging experience, some destinations even offer unique adventure trips like swinging safaris (though this is more niche and less common).

By understanding the different types of destinations and what they offer, you and your partner can better align your choice with your interests—be it relaxation, age-specific mingling, or a unique adventure.

Budgeting for Your Adults-Only Adventure

As you know, any kind of traveling is not an inexpensive thing to do. And a swinging getaway is no different. It's a unique experience, but it's essential to remember that such trips come at a cost—sometimes a substantial one. From airfare to accommodations, from event tickets to unplanned expenses, it's crucial to plan your budget carefully to ensure you fully enjoy your time without any financial hiccups.

Here are some areas to consider:

  • Travel Expenses: Whether you're flying, driving, or cruising to your destination, travel can eat up a significant chunk of your budget. Airfare alone can range from $300 to $1,000+ per person depending on your departure location and destination.

  • Accommodation: Prices for adults-only, all-inclusive resorts can vary widely. You could be looking at anywhere from $200 to $800 per night, depending on the luxury level and the amenities offered.

  • Event Fees: Special events like themed nights, swingers cruises, or hotel takeovers often have separate fees, ranging from $50 for a single event to $500+ for a multi-day experience.

  • Meals and Drinks: While many all-inclusive packages cover meals and beverages, some specialty items or premium liquors may incur additional charges. Budget an extra $50-$100 per day for such extras if needed.

  • Optional Experiences: Many destinations offer extra activities that could interest you, like spa treatments or local tours. These can range from $50 to several hundred dollars.

  • Incidentals: Don't forget about tipping, souvenirs, or any spontaneous activities that might catch your eye. An additional $100-$200 can cover these miscellaneous expenses.

When Abby and I travel, we use an app to track all our expenses in real time. By planning ahead and allocating funds to each category, we’re better equipped to enjoy all the activities and experiences without encountering any unwelcome financial surprises.

What to Pack for Your Swinging Getaway

Packing for an adults-only, swinging destination isn't quite the same as packing for a regular holiday. While you'll still want the basics like swimwear and sunscreen, there are additional items that can significantly enhance your experience. Here's a categorized list to make sure you have everything you might need:

Basic Essentials

  • Swimwear: Depending on your comfort level, you might opt for more revealing or modest options.

  • Sunscreen: High SPF to protect you while you lounge by the pool or participate in outdoor activities.

  • Casual Wear: For daytime activities that aren't centered around the pool or beach.

Specialized Items

  • Sexy Outfits: Many destinations have themed nights; packing a variety of sexy outfits will help you feel part of the action.

  • Adult Toys: If you have favorite toys you’d like to bring, make sure they're travel-friendly.

  • Icebreaker Games: Consider bringing cards or games designed to spark conversation and help you meet new people.

Clothing-Optional & Special Zones

  • Clothing-Optional Attire: If you're going to a place that offers clothing-optional areas or has zones like those at Desire Resort, you might want to pack—or not pack—accordingly.

    • Clothing-Optional Areas: Some guests prefer wearing a robe, sarong, or easy-to-remove swimwear for quick transitions.

    • Regular Areas: Even within a specialized resort, there might be areas where clothing is required. Be sure to pack casual or dinner attire for these spots.

  • Footwear: Heels for the nightclub, flip-flops for the beach, and perhaps a comfortable pair for walking or excursions.


  • Sex Toys and Lubes: You’ll probably want to bring your own favorites. When we travel, we always put this stuff in our checked baggage – we have some fun stuff, and the thought of pulling stuff out of a carry-on is beyond embarrassing for Abby!

  • Personal Care Items: Don’t forget essentials like toiletries, medications, or any specialty items you can't easily acquire at your destination.

  • Safety Essentials: Condoms or other protection—some resorts may provide these, but it's good to have your own.

By thoughtfully preparing your packing list, you can ensure that you'll have everything you need to fully enjoy all the different aspects of your swinging getaway, from clothing-optional lounging to themed parties.

Do Your Homework

Engaging in a swinging getaway offers a host of unique experiences, but it's crucial to remember that each event or destination has its own specific guidelines. Research your chosen destination's rules and guidelines beforehand and familiarize yourself with them beforehand to ensure a smooth, enjoyable experience. Failing to adhere to these can not only put a damper on your fun but also affect the experience of others.

Here are a few things to look out for:

  • Codes of Conduct: Some locations may have them readily available on their website. Research your chosen destination's rules and guidelines beforehand.

  • Designated Play Areas: Many destinations have designated "play areas," which can vary in name but are explicitly designed for more intimate activities.

  • Soft Swap by the Pool: Some places allow softer interactions in public spaces like pools but keep more hardcore activities restricted to private rooms or designated areas.

  • Public vs. Private Play Areas: Some locations may offer both public and private play spaces, often with different rules governing what activities can happen where. For those who prefer discretion or want to engage in more intense activities, your private room is usually the best bet.

  • Photos and Videos: Taking vacation pics can be tempting, but it's often against the rules to photograph or film in common areas—especially without explicit consent from all parties involved. This is not just about privacy; it's about ensuring that you don't accidentally out someone.

  • Discretion: When discussing your experiences with others, whether online or in person, remember that discretion is key. Respect other people’s privacy as much as you would want yours to be respected.

  • Be safe: No matter how intoxicating the atmosphere, never compromise on safety. Keep an eye on your drinks, practice safe sex, and always maintain open communication with your partner.

By thoroughly familiarizing yourself with the rules, spaces, and etiquette of your chosen swinging destination, you ensure a respectful, enjoyable experience for yourself and others. And that's the point: you're there to relax, explore, and have fun, without the worry of overstepping boundaries.

Final Thoughts before Embarking on Your Unforgettable Getaway

The prospect of an adults-only, swinging getaway can evoke both exhilaration and apprehension. But with meticulous planning, candid dialogue with your partner, and a willingness to embrace new experiences, your swinging vacation has the potential to be an annual event.



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